This is part of a comment left on my last post(you can click on it to see the whole thing):
“To put it another way, why should I let her go? She’s useful just where she is; close enough to think she’s dating me and far enough away she doesn’t delude herself into believing she has authority in the relationship.
That’s the only language I speak. What’s in it for me. Appealing to my self interest will get you farther then relying on my moral compass or compassion.”
If you date a woman who really has “no authority in the relationship” you are most likely dating some who can’t hold a conversation or you’re a pimp. I’m not judging your life style either way, but what man wants someone who they can date and make it seem like a relationship but they have no say in anything that goes on in it, it sounds like dating a blow-up doll.
As for addressing self interests over morals, I suppose for someone who really believes that, yes, in the SHORT term you’ll def win out, selfishness is briefly satisfying. In the LONG term, you’ll be alone, or well, not to be redundant, but…a pimp.
Whether the comment was written to get an angry response or was in fact how this guy feels, I’m not sure, but what it did for me is bring up a question or three:
What is with guys dating a girl for weeks or even months JUST to fuck her? who has that kind of time at this age?
And in terms of the comment: Why is it so hard for you just to leave a girl alone? I would guess it’s because you want to know you can still have it if you want it, but when you honestly know you want nothing to do with this woman in the long run, you’re both in your early to mid-twenties and have very little time for game playing, why not just let her go? Why not stop calling every 2 weeks when it’s right before she forgets about you and right after she says she’ll give it one more day? Or apologizing when you’re not really sorry, just to fuck it all up again?
Just wondering….honest responses are welcomed.